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lshst1

lshst1 started this conversation
Feb 24, 2006
i have been disabled since i turned 30 in 1989. I lost my dad, husband, and almost myself and daughter during a difficult delivery due to doctor's mistakes. I needed a C-section and did not get it. It caused so much damage that i still am having surgeries from that time.
 
I can not have more children and lost my husband cause he was angry and could not accept that. He wanted a boy. He went out one night got really messed up on drugs and alcohol and wrecked his step-van over an embankment of 1500 feet or more. It was publicized on tv and newspapers all weekend. He layed 6 hours till the road manager who was fixing the new highway found him on 'Sunday morning early about 7. He died in the hospital at 10 am.

My dad died 8 months before at Christmas time due to high blood presssure, diabetes, heart failures.  He was 53 years of age. He did get to hold his first and only granddaughter my Courtney.

I have no family the husband's family blame me and refused to have anything to do with us after the accident. I was taking care of our baby and they blamed me. What a joke. I have never met such mean selfish people.
Except my own 2 brothers and 1 sister who also do not believe I am ill with this terribly painful fibromyalgia , arthritis conditions ++++-I have struggled alone to raise Courtney and she is so special. she has a IQ of over 150--genius level.

I am hoping her education and dream of working with computers and becoming a teacher come through.
I have very little to help her with / she needs to learn to drive but this car is too dangerous.

I wish social security would not have taken our money away like they did when she turned 16. This has made no sense to me when that was all we had to live on. Life has been terrible since. She is 19 and She has tried so hard to have extra little jobs that has at least kept us from starving.

OUr government needs to seriously look at what they are doing to citizens of the US. when they take these programs and have these rules that hurt us and barely even allows us to live. I have felt i live in some poor country everone else on tv or whatever are trying to save. What about us --People who want to live as responsible lively adults but when disablity happens i was throwed away worse than a wild animal.

I just hope someone can help our life to become better so my daughter doesn't have to keep suffering because she has no one --no family to speak of that shows any love or care.

I pray the right person will read this and generously either donates or loans us a fair uplifting new beginning.

Please e-mail me   Love Lynette Helsel (Mock)
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cat7
Mar 22, 2009

Try speaking to a charity which is specializing in your condition. It is really worth giving it a go and I know people who were offered help with mortgage costs and other bills. 

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crossboy56
May 10, 2008

check with the state you are in,to see if they have welfare,local food banks.

 and,check with the state unempolyment office.

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avernon002
May 4, 2008

I know how you feel. I have Ms AND MY HUSBAND LEFT US WHEN MY ILLNESS GOT IN HIS WAY.  We live off of my disability every month.  I pay rent and the light bill one month, the next i pay rent and the gas bill.  I hate telling my 3 kids no all the time.  But alot of nights they still go to bed hungry.  It really sucks.

 

Angie Vernon

Aberdeen NC

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imchaze
Apr 26, 2008

Dear lshst1,

  I don't understand why you were cut off S.S. when your daughter turned 16 unless she quit school ? There are other government , Social service programs that will help till she is 24 if she is still in school.

  As for  Fibromyalgia I too suffer from it & am your age. I just enrolled in collage full time having lost a full time job. It hurts no more or less if I am sitting doing nothing or being active trying to maintain a self sufficent life! I Hope this helps you see that you need to fight not give in. There are medical rehab services also if you don't feel you can do it alone. They could be the start of  a fair uplifting new beginning for you.

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